A few weeks before Chad and I got married I bought a plaque to put on HeeJun’s grave. For some reason it was important to me that people knew that he was married, that he had a wife and that I existed in his life, I guess. I can’t visit the grave regularly and probably wouldn’t even if I lived near it, but it was important for me to have something there that linked us. I also don’t think I will be buried there…maybe sprinkled a little, I don’t know…so I wanted my mark to be there in some small way. It was also a way to remind his family I was still here, I guess.
So, the plaque came in a few weeks ago. Perfect timing for my trip to Raleigh to get my hair done and visit friends. Chad and I stopped at the cemetery on the way back to Charlotte. Is he not amazing? Chad walked me to the spot and helped me place the plaque down. He asked if I wanted to stay for a while. I didn’t. It’s not a place I need to be anymore and HeeJun isn’t there.
It was a surreal moment, looking back. Chad and I held hands walking to the spot. He took the plaque from my hands and helped lay it down. While walking back he kissed me. We kissed on the same ground I stood for the funeral. We kissed on the same spot I thought my life would never find joy again. We kissed on the spot where my faith was shaken and where I laid with the darkest, heaviest part of my soul. We kissed and I was happy!
The plaque says
“Love Never Dies
Always
Your Wife, Erica”
And some adorable pictures of the dogs driving home for your pleasure! 
this made me teary, i am also a widow. maybe i should do the same. for reasons that i can’t go into
maybe it will be a part of me at his gravesite to remind people that i still exist too.
Dear Erica, Iam so glad that you put the plaque on HeeJun,s grave . It definitely belongs there! and so good of Chad to help you I love you,noni