The other day I was wondering how I am going to make new friends when I move. I realized I will be in a whole different part of town. I wondered how does an adult make friends. I remembered how discouraging it was when I first moved here and wanted the kind of friendships I had in high school and college. I worried that I wouldn’t be able to find a close group of friends like I have found here in Charlotte within the past 3 years. Then I realized what brought us together. We were all just acquaintences before HeeJun died. I didn’t talk to Amy or Sarah or Jacquie every week like I do now. I didn’t talk to Brittany every day. I didn’t cherish the friendships I had with the Rubber Band Gang before. For that matter, I barely knew them. I only said “hi” in passing to my neighbors. After HeeJun died, I needed them all. They held me together. I realized tragedy brought us closer.

I hope I don’t make any new friends after the move.