I was born to be a mama. I have even thought of being a foster mom for babies those 7 days they are in respite care before their new mommies and daddies take them home. Adoption is on my bucket list. I just love babies. So does Chad. We know we want kids and even had our girl name picked out the second day of our honeymoon.
Here’s the thing. We want to enjoy being married for a while before the stress of kids. We want to have the house ready. I understand the logic to that.
BUT HeeJun and I tried for two freaking years to get pregnant. I had to get on medication to get my hormones right. I checked my temperature daily and wrote it on a calendar for a year. Then I miscarried and struggled to get pregnant again.
So, what if that happens again?
Praise God that I am not in control of this. God has this all in His hands already. None of this surprised Him. He has our baby already planned for us and His timing is perfect. I must remind myself of these things when I am nagging Chad to “knock me up”.
For now I’ll babysit and snuggle my friends’ sweet kiddos and watch videos of babies giggling on YouTube.
Saw the title of your post and wanted to chime in. I have been a widow for 8 years. My late husband and I were given a less than 1% chance of having children. God in his wonderful mercy gave us four beautiful children. Each time I got pregnant, doctors were amazed and would say, “you beat the odds” again. We knew with God there are no odds. I do agree that you should wait and enjoy each other as a couple and when it is time, God will give you the child or children you long for whatever means He chooses.
Best wishes and God bless you,
BethinNC
Just throwing in my two cents. As a mother of 5 I can say you are never really “ready”, there is never a perfect time, you just have to trust God. You will still enjoy being married after you have kids, probably more so. It takes 9 long months for a baby to be born. Why wait? Have a little faith.
Anyway just my two cents.
Peace
I’m with Janine. There is no perfect time, and if (God forbid!) there are infertility issues to deal with, you will wish you had that time back. Sorry to be so opinionated. It’s just that going through what I did to conceive (with and without Michael), I can’t help but put it out there. I’m not sure how old you are, so maybe you have more time than I realize.
Parenthood is wonderful, and I’m so glad that God has blessed you with someone you can plan a family with.